Five Reasons to Stop Saying, “Good Job!”

Five Reasons to Stop Saying, “Good Job!”

As I reflect on my own interactions with children over the past 40 years, I’m left wondering if I unknowingly overused the technique of praising children.  I studied child psychology, became a nursery school teacher, then a center director, started Especially for Children and, with my husband, raised three children.  During all those experiences I know that trying to build positive self esteem in children was one of my primary goals.  I did understand that I shouldn’t praise children insincerely, and that I should ask questions about their work, but I was often so excited by their accomplishments that I know I said “Good Job!” many times a day.  
The article Five Reasons to Stop Saying “Good Job!” gave me much to think about as it makes a case for how praise can be manipulation, can steal a child’s pleasure and actually reduce achievement.  I encourage you to read all the attached articles and think about the importance of supporting and encouraging your children.  But, be open to the possibility that you may want to find some new ways to interact with your children to truly help them feel good about themselves.